Five More Ways to Help Gain Control of Your Life
Five More Ways to Help Gain Control of your Life
By Charles L Harmon
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When things just don’t seem to be going our way we often wonder who is in control. It’s been said that if we are not in control of our lives, then someone else is. If that’s true, we certainly don’t want someone else in control of our lives. To avoid the prospect of losing control entirely, we must take some steps to correct the situation. Here are a few tips that will point you to the road of your own self control.
1. Practice Love and Affection (Your Friends and Family)
You don’t have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn’t touch! Personal touch does make a difference.
2. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help Someone in Need
Everyone feels good when they help someone. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your energy to help others. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return. Too many have expounded on that for it not to have meaning.
3. Use Interruptions to Combat Thinking of Negative Outcomes
If you find yourself frequently focusing on what could go wrong with something or how a situation could go against you, a great way to stop is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Do not hyper-focus on something negative. It’s never productive, because it’s not rational or solution-oriented, it’s just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.
4. Look for Proof Instead of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking. However we can never be sure. Our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member’s bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don’t waste your time worrying you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is actually something to worry about.
5. Try Not to Use Absolutes
Have you ever told a partner or a friend “You’re always late!” or complained to a friend “You never call me!”? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like makes the situation seem worse than it is. Refrain from using ‘always’ and ‘never’ and it will go a long way to ease any tensions between others and yourself. It will keep your brain from believing that certain people are incapable of delivering if you don’t associate them with always late, never on time, etc.
If you’re prone to losing control to situations when you know of feel you should have had the situation go your way then you need to gain more control of what happens to you. Take a hint from the above tips and make a conscious effort to exert some control over the situations you find yourself in.
About the Author
Charles is a software developer. He also writes articles for websites. One of his favorite interests is using the Internet for online dating - visit http://unlonely.com. For garden articles and information visit My Garden Delight to glean garden information. Charles is writing about the real life story of Mr. Q, someone with Alzheimer’s disease.
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